I recently came across a wonderful and inspiring photography exhibition titled “Love Ever After” by Lauren Fleishman. After her grandfather’s death she found a series of love letters that he had written to her grandmother. They had been married for more than 50 years. Lauren’s exhibition includes photos, voice recordings and text of couples who have been together for more than half a century.
Here are my favorites:
What is the secret to love? A secret is a secret and I don’t reveal my secrets! – Yvov Shapirshteyn, Brighton Beach, Brooklyn.
You don’t really think about getting older. First of all, you’re ageing together and when you see a person constantly you don’t notice big changes. Like you don’t notice, oh you’re getting a little wrinkle here and tomorrow you say oh it’s a little deeper. No those are things that just happen. You don’t pay attention to those things. You don’t realise it… really. You don’t realise that you’re… I mean I’m not thinking everyday, oh my husbands 83 years old he’s gonna be 84. Oh my goodness, I’m married to an old man. And I hope he feels that too. – Angie Terranova, Staten Island, New York.
Little be little we age but we don’t change in our hearts. Love gets stronger. That is the way we feel. I believe he feels the same way. Yes, he was my first love. My first and my last. -Leila Ramos, Williamsburg, Brooklyn.
I was having a problem in school because I had to write a music paper and I had never written anything about music. It was my mother who had suggested that I go see David because he knew so much about music. So I went over and I thought maybe he would write it for me! But he said no, I’ll help you but you have to write it yourself. He always had very high standards. After we wrote the paper together he asked me to go to a party with some of his army friends. You know, I had never thought of him romantically! He looked at me the way a man who has just come out of the army would look at a sexy woman. - Sheila Newman, Flatlands, Brooklyn.
To see more of this exhibition go to Lauren Fleishman’s site.
What’s your recipe to staying in love through the years? I’d love to hear your comments.